College, what a crazy experience. As many of you know I went away to college for a year, and let's just say I learned A LOT. Educational wise? Not so much. Life experience wise? Oh man. I fucked up a lot in college, but that was okay because everyone there was fucking up with you. College is ruthless and unforgiving. You do things you swore you would never do, and hang out with people you would of never talked to in highschool. College students have no shame, and it's worse when those stories get back to your small town. It's a whole new world and though it wasn't at all what I expected, I needed that year to grow. My expectations might of been set a little high prior to going. Here are some things I learned my freshman year of college.
1. You Probably Won´t Fall In Love Your Freshman Year
Okay fine maybe some people will, but if you're a relationship person at least go for upper class men. Most likely the guys in your dorm just want to slam as many chicks as possible. Not all but most. I heard way too many of the guys conversations amongst my group of friends and let's just say, I felt bad for any chick they were leading on. I couldn't even walk to class without a frat boy whistling in my direction. Even on my bad days they were being dogs. (Not just the guys, but the girls would be dogs, too.) When people say that the guys are ¨so different¨ once you get to college, they were either lying or lucky because it felt like highschool all over again (in that aspect.)
2. You Might Become A Slight Alcoholic
If you fuck up like me freshman year then you might end up becoming a boarder line alcoholic. Not because of any emotional stuff (well, sometimes), but because everyone is doing it. I actually tried like hell not to get thrown into that lifestyle, but when you're stressed all week sometimes it seems like the best thing to do on the weekends, which eventually turned into week days, too. And occasionally before class, which led to skipping class or leaving early. Damn. Everyone is broke during the school year yet everyone can get there hands on alcohol. Not always the best alcohol, but its literally always there.
3. You should never date someone down the hall
Why? Because it might result in you calling the cops for a restraining order. Nothing is more awkward than a failed relationship walking up and down your hallway everyday. This was probably the best life lesson I could of learned. Now I prefer long distance relationships and thoroughly enjoy being a few towns away from my significant other. If I could redo my college career I would of never even talked to anyone in my dorms, because realistically that just calls for some awkward run ins on the staircase or in the elevator. Your dorm is your HOME, you should feel comfy in your home, and I did not.
4. YOu Will Get Cabin Fever
Spending all winter in a tiny room with the same person? Honestly, I could of lived in that room with my mother and we still would of had a downfall. It's pretty insane when you are literally never alone between the lobby always having someone studying in it or constantly having to be around your roommate. Once spring finally comes you can't wait to just sit outside, away from any and all form of life. This is why so many friendships fail after living together at college. Luckily, me and my roommate just took a LONG break after our freshman year and still love eachother.
5. You will spend too much time with people
like I said, you literally will NEVER be alone. The only thing that saved me was making friends outside of the dorm, that way I could see new faces and get out of that god forsaken building when I needed to. I made a friend that lived in apartments off campus, and when I went over there, I claimed her living room as my bedroom so I could get nights of sleeping in a room alone. Luckily, she let me pretty much live there when I needed to get away from all of my Freshman friends and dormmates. The best part of this, is the apartment complex had a hot tub that I took full advantage of.
6. Frat parties arent like the movies
Okay I guess this one depends on what college you're attending, but my school was a party school and the parties did not meet my expectations whatsoever. Also, the frat guys weren't as hot as I expected either, so yeah, that sucked. I really thought college parties were like the movie Sorority Row, then once I got to Kent I found out that Sororities weren´t even allowed to throw house parties. Only the frats were allowed to throw shitty parties with their cheap beer in their gross houses where if you used the bathroom you were at risk for any and all infections. Bleh.
7. Cliques will still very much exist
People tell you all the time that college is a lot different than highschool, but to be honest it might of been worse. People do not group together so much based off of shallow things like what you wear or what music you listen to, but you will team up with people in a less judgmental way. My ¨squad¨ was very unique, and we talked to everyone. But there were a group of girls we did not get a long with down the hall which gave you those highschool feelings all over again.
8. Your classes will either be too hard or too easy
Literally NO in between. I was either doing really good in a class or failing miserably. I went from having a class where I needed to explain what a TORNADO was to having to know multiple dates of historical paintings. Some classes you´ll never have to crack a book open for (your very expensive book) and other classes you will stay up studying for all night and still probably will fail. Its the hard knock life.
9. Youll probably see some once in a lifetime things
Its not everyday you get to see a hippy blaring Skrillex from a loud ass speaker on his bicycle. The fashion is a little crazy, and the protests people had were pretty much always ridiculous. You never know what exactly you'll see or run into when you're going to a university, so you just kind of prepare yourself for anything. Guy wearing Ugg boots? Seen it. Girl with purple eyebrows? Seen it.
10. Youll be introduced to so many new things
My fashion sense when I left my small town was NOTHING like my fashion sense when I came back to it. When you're at a college with one of the best fashion majors in the country then you'll be sure to catch on. I also found new music artists and interests through my friends from all over the place. Your mind will be more open, you'll get new ideas. College is full of creative and inspired people who were raised so much differently than you in your town.
Bonus: Most importantly Youll find yourself
The biggest and most important thing about your college experience is that you'll literally learn so much more about yourself on levels you didn't even know existed. I can completely say that the person I was when I left for college is not the person I am at all being back from college. Everyone needs to experience at least one year on a campus. You'll be more on your own, you'll meet so many new people, you'll feel less judgement, you'll do things you can only ever do once at college and it actually be okay. You'll just live! Though my college experience was an up and down roller coaster, I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I hope you guy enjoyed this post! I will see you next time.
Xoxo,
I hope you guy enjoyed this post! I will see you next time.
Xoxo,